No matter which school of thought to which one belongs, there really is more to sex than making babies or achieving orgasm. If either of these becomes the central goal of lovemaking, it is no longer about the connection with one's beloved. Sexual sharing threatens to become nothing more than need or greed when one forgets to be open to give and receive without reservation.
The classic text of Jewish mysticism, The Zohar, suggests that there are 3 points of unity that occur when two are engaged in soulful sex. When sharing a kiss, there is an exchange of life breath. Our life breath is a gift from the Creator. It comes when we are born into the physical world and stops when our flesh has died. As automatic as the beat of one's heart, it continues throughout the throes of passion. Physical touch is the second component. As two bodies are intertwined they become as one flesh. Skin against skin provides both soft resistance and even softer yielding. One becomes unsure of where their body ends and the other begins. Last (or maybe I should say "first") the opportunity to gaze into each others eyes with true openness is the window which opens us to be one in spirit with our beloved. (My thanks to Rabbi Shmuley Boteach for his insights in his book, Kosher Sex.)
It takes awareness and practice to achieve this deep unity. In so doing, the human body has the ability to achieve an ecstasy beyond that which you can imagine. What we imagine is limited by our ability to imagine or by what someone has taught us is possible or morally acceptable.
I personally desire that deepness with my partner. When we are both in that kind of awareness, it creates a Holy intimacy between us that is breathtaking. Do we get to soulful sex every time we make love? Not yet. We both must bring our authentic selves to the bedroom. And that takes practice and a desire to give and receive fully and with love.
